How to create a safe space without triggers
Many years ago, I began to set up my space as my own. I would put up posters, hang tapestries, have candles around, and create a place where I could feel safe. The world around us is always busy and there always are those who are negative. Getting home to a space where you cannot rest is probably one of the hardest things to deal with. Especially if you are starting your journey to fabulous!
There are certain elements that I have implemented in my space that encourage me each day. It took me many years to get my space just right and it was surprising that adding these things made such a difference with the way I think and even speak to myself. Here are some elements you can add today to help you start.
A clean space helps clear the mind
Anyone who knows me will tell you how I love to clean. Part of it is because I love order, but there are other less apparent reasons too. Being legally blind, I need to know where things are. I’m not relying on my sight to find something so I try to keep things in the same place when I need them. People often ask me where things are located because I have memorized most of my surroundings.
Cleaning also helps clear the mind by taking time out to care about your space. It takes time and effort to clean. Furniture may need to be moved, laundry needs to be done, and just being aware that there are coffee cups under the bed that need to be tossed out helps to organize a space. During the week, I swear a time bomb explodes in my room filled with clothing and paper. The weekends are when I put everything back as best I can until the process begins again.
Reorganizing for sanity
After cleaning, I often realize that how things are put together in my space do not help for workflow. I may want my bed closer to the window so I can breathe fresh air at night or have my desk in a space where I can spread out papers. The way things are organized really can change the feeling of a room. Feng Shui aside, flow of a room helps the flow of a mind.
Since I am a firm believer in dance or hula hoop breaks, I will have open space near my computer so I can stretch, dance, hula hoop or lay down on the floor and wonder why my ceiling has cracks in it. This technique has helped me with my work and given me better rest.
Colors engage the mind
I’m a vibrant person with a lot of energy. I find that for my space, I need a lot of colors to harmonize with my creativity. If I had a theme it would be blues, greens, and some purples. They give me the most amount of calm feelings. I will add pops of orange or red, but too much for me can be over stimulating.
Ever notice how restaurants have color schemes? They do that for a reason. Using this for a personal space can lead to more productivity and relaxation. Maybe beige helps clear your mind or black inspires you to jam on your bass for hours. Whatever the colors are, seek out what brings you the most engaging feelings and start bringing them into your room. Some places need to stay white like this one apartment I had where the walls all were white (aaaaaaaaaaaah!) I added throw pillows, tapestries, and posters to help with the overall décor.
Plants, crystals, and candles
It might just be who I am, but I have found that adding plants, prisms, a salt lamp, and candles to my space help with the energy of the room. Now I can get all technical by saying that plants produce oxygen which helps with the air quality in the room along with having the focus of keeping them alive can add to the harmony. Salt lamps are supposed to balance out negative ions and level out energy. Candles create a peaceful scent in a space which can relax the mind.
In general, putting things in a space that bring happiness is the goal. Once the mind and body are relaxed, then creativity has room to blossom! Once that happens, it is surprising how much better we talk to ourselves and how we treat others.
There was a moment in my life that I “woke up” seeing how my space was in shambles. It literally was like waking from a bad dream. It took me a few moments to think about what lead me to that moment. It begins with little things that I did or didn’t do. After time these negative actions built up so much that it because a way of life. I decided to reverse this path and put my life back in the direction I wanted to go in.
Cleaning my space both around me and on my computer, reorganize what I had, sprucing up the décor, and adding some key elements helped me tremendously. Start with what you have and go from there. Each month add something new in the décor you’ve wanted and make sure to release that which does not serve you well. Keeping a space clear of debris and harmonized can change your life.