Pro Tip: One moment at a time
As I sit here at the breakfast table, I think about the year ahead of me. Not about the new President or about world event that are so terrible that they want to strike fear into my heart, but about God’s love and direction. So many of you will be making halfhearted resolutions, knowing that you’ll probably break them in a few days. Why not make ones that you’ll keep?
A few years back, I decided to study the techniques of following through my resolutions. What steps did I have to take to succeed in the next year and not let life drag me by the wrist into every drama moment of disaster that is waiting around the corner. My answer was so easy it was shocking.
I needed to get over myself
In this age of ego-centric media and culture, we think about ourselves. What can we do better or improve or change? What if we stepped back and looked around us? The Lord did say to treat others as ourselves would want to be treated. Harsh medicine to take. I mean what if we spent our money that was given to us for our hard work and focused it on those who could use it. Yep, I became a tither in that moment. The money I worked for was not mine to hold but to use. To pay my rent, food, clothing, and if I gave just 10% to my church or other charity, it would come back to me. Now, will I get rich by giving my money away? Not likely, but what I am doing is changing my mind to be generous.
If I can release 10% of income when things are tight, I will release more when I become rich because I understand the value of every cent and how it can be used.
Take baby steps
When I began my weight loss journey of losing 100 pounds, I knew it would take a series of small steps to succeed. The year I resolved to look and feel healthy, sexy, and confident was one of the hardest years. I had to completely relearn life. My eating habits needed to be changed and I needed to make exercising my religion. So I took the first baby step of writing down all that I ate, then began my exercise routine, then kept at it each day. Did I attempt other goals? NOPE! I focused completely on that one and each day dedicated 30 minutes to an hour. After continuing this practice, I lost the weight.
Once I figured that out, I could apply this strategy to other areas of my life. I quit smoking, moved to a healthier living situation, got out of $10K of debt on a limited income, became a professional artist, so on and so forth. All of this was accomplished by taking baby steps every day.
Never stop learning
The worst part about going to school is the boring hours learning subjects I would rarely ever use again. The most difficult part was learning on my own after I graduated. The year after I left college with a BA I spent doing nothing but watching TV because I could not find work and honestly I had no idea what to do with myself about 22 years of focused, organized education. After getting into student loan debt, facing adversity due to my disability, and struggling so much academically I cannot support institutional education the way it is now. Like losing 100 pounds, I needed to relearn how to learn.
The most successful people in this world continue to read, journal, and listen to information. Not all information is useful and some can derail your success. I needed to find what books to read, podcasts to study, and how to journal in order to keep my brain active.
Each piece of new information learned creates a wrinkle on the brain. The more information that is learned, the more a person can grow. When we stop learning, we literally begin to die. This has been proven in countless studies. Learning will not give us immortality, but it will bring enlightenment to the life we have. The more we learn, the more we want to share.
I am so passionate about continuing my education through mentors, books, podcasts, and interviews with the right people that I can talk for hours on this subject. Plus I found that it bring success in ways I could not imagine.
Don’t be afraid to fail
When I was in dance class, I would fail a lot. Many times I would try over and over again just to fall down, or be mocked, or yelled at by the teacher. This made me more determined to win. In order to win, I needed those failures so I figured out how to succeed.
I have started numerous projects and businesses just to lose interest or to have them exploded spectacularly. One left me with $3,000 debt I needed to pay off on a state income of $600 a month. It took me a few years, but I did it enough to know that borrowing money to start a business is a bad idea. After many life lessons, I look forward to the next failure so that I can improve and come back stronger.
What are my resolutions for 2017? To have more faith in God’s love.