Changing hair color and perspectives at any age
One time at a salon, I was talking with my stylist about the change I wanted to make with losing weight and getting healthy. She said that many times the first thing women (and men) will do is to change their hair style and color. Somehow this new look is the start to a new perception. In fact, that was exactly what I was doing.
I have been changing up my hairstyle ever since I can remember. There were a few style trends I’m not proud of, but it was the 1980’s after all and perming was cool. Okay, now that this is out of the way, we can move forward. So yes, I enjoy changing up my look from time to time.
Recently, I decided to cut off most of my hair sporting a short stacked bob. It is easier to manage, is cooler in the heat of the summer, and I can easily bleach/color my hair. I definitely miss my long locks, but I will have short hair for a little bit.
First I bleach my hair
When I started the journey of unnatural hair, I used to do a lot of it myself because I was a broke high school student. Now that I am employed and adulating, I still bleach my own hair. There were times when I went to a salon, only to have them destroy my hair and overcharge me. I spoke to a beautician friend of mine and asked her why salons ruin hair more often than not? Simple, she replied. It has to do with time vs results. If a person uses a 40 volume developer then most hair will turn to white or pale in a very short period of time. This takes a lot of precision and speed, but it can be done.
I would constantly say that I am a blonde and my hair takes to bleach easily. They politely agree and do their magic. Sadly, even waiting a few minutes over time destroys my hair. The final straw was this stylist who hated my pink hair. She spread the bleach through my hair with a hard comb and let it sit longer than it was meant to be. The results where what I deemed cotton candy hair, not in a good way.
I learned the science and mixture of bleaching and how to achieve the look I wanted without destroying my hair. I needed a 20 volume developer that was sensitive and a no peroxide bleach powder. I then add conditioner or shampoo. The amounts vary depending on the finished look. I even have some toner to get rid of the brassy look.
Unnatural or natural colors
I have done both. Again, I prefer to mix them myself and I AVOID box colorants. While these are good in a pinch, long term they are terrible. Either the developer is not strong enough or the color does not fade well. It does not take much more time or cost to buy from a beauty product store and do it yourself.
The reason I continue to use unnatural colors as I age is because of how fun they are! The compliments I get are wonderful and somehow wearing pink hair makes me smile more. Overall the cost is about the same and the product I buy is safe for pets and children. My hair just loves it and will keep the color in for a while if I process it correctly.
Hair tells a lot about a person
The way we look is all a part of how we talk to ourselves. Having unkempt, messed, mousy hair shows that we don’t care or do not see ourselves as attractive. If you feel otherwise, let me know, but when my hair was unflattering, my entire personality was effected.
Taking pride in my hair style gives me an air of confidence. It also helps those around me feel more relaxed and they can open a conversation about hair. That’s my job anyway! To get folks talking and asking questions. How can I do that when I look frumpy?
Salons are intimidating
Many salons make me feel nervous. These talented people are getting very personal and I have to put a ton of trust in their skills. I’ve found that for the most part they are all well trained, but they have their own ideas of what looks good and what doesn’t. Like dating or friendship, it is important to find a stylist that matches your style. Once you get that first visit out of the way and like what you are seeing, you can either keep going or do it at home.
When making a life change by changing your hair style, seek out a professional first. From there, learn about the art of hair and get creative! There are always cool new trends coming out or you can start your own. The important part is that if gives you confidence.