How I stuck to my New Year’s Resolution and lost 100 pounds
Every year each one of us either consciously or subconsciously creates some sort of a resolution or “Living List” of all the things we want to change and where we would like to be in a year. Many people want to lose fat, stop smoking, get more money, find that special someone, and so forth and so on. Somehow these bench marks of life are what is most important. Right? Hmmm maybe not.
There are millions upon millions of dollars spent in advertising to show you how you should be living and what cure-all they are selling to get you started off right. The first one I fell for was in a teen magazine when I was 12. I mailed away money to this advertisement that promised me a way to start losing weight. The photo was altered and they were crooks. There was no booklet or anything. Luckily I was able to get my money back while learning a very good lesson.
Don’t trust what you see in magazines or on TV
Media is designed to give an illusion. Way back in the day when films became popular, there was a term called “The Boiler room Affect”. This referred to those who work hard labor jobs like in a boiler room that wanted to escape reality for an hour or two. They spent about $0.05 to go see this new-fangled thing called a moving picture or as we know it as a movie. This movie would feature beautiful people in rich houses living life to its fullest. Some would tell stories of the working man down on his luck who falls into a miracle and live happily ever after. It was a time to give peace and hope to an otherwise hard life.
Fast forward a few years and we are now bombarded with images and ideals of a reality that is literally unattainable. So what is the point in even trying? Stay with me on this one because it’s worth it. The media would have you believe that the perfect body is around seven feet tall weighing 100 pounds and wearing a size 2. Basically, an elf. Even on the rare occasion someone fits that bill, I can guarantee you they are not comfortable in their own skin.
Cut the cord and succeed!
About seven years back, I made a decision to cut the cable cord. I stopped listening to the latest Hollywood gossip, reading most magazines, and staying in my own focused world. The main reason I stopped was because I got so irritated at all of the medication commercials that claimed the next best cure to an illness that was made up and there was always a possibility of “death like symptoms”. Is that like the Walking Dead? Do you wake up one moving craving brains?
Beyond my blood pressure going down after walking away from this media, I started to notice I had more self-confidence. My focus was to get healthy and to look the best that I could. My bone structure would never be tall and bone thin. My skin was damaged by stretch marks and scars so that tight flat skin was out of reach beyond surgery. So what was I left with? I was given this strong, voluptuous body. I knew I could build up my muscles to define my curves. As the weight began to fall away, this beautiful diva was forming.
God knew my beauty was there all along
I have many friends and family who are a strong part of the body positive movement that embrace their extra weight. As well they should! For me, I wanted to be fit and thinner than I was at 265 pounds. My health was failing and I wanted children/marriage/long life so I had to change it up and fast. I did not take pills, have surgery, or go on fad diets. What I did was listen to my heart and the love of God. I got myself into this mess, now it was time to get out.
It would not be easy but it would be worth it.
I made a decision to change, found how to do it, and stuck to it day after day. There were moments I wanted to quit. Those were the times I pushed harder! The successes came with buying smaller clothing, going out on the town, and even in the compliments I was given. I knew myself well enough to keep things in perspective. I have battled eating disorders since I was 12 so it had to be healthy this time.
The mind needs to change first before any weight can be lost
Surrounding myself with the right support, focusing my faith, and seeing in my mind’s eye how I wanted to look were essential before even putting in the first workout video. I kept hearing over and over again that if I can create a habit for 21 days, then I could stick with it for months. Sounds easy enough and I refused to give up. It took a few years, but I reached my resolution!
Like any weight loss journey, I did gain some back. This was the time to re-evaluate what worked and what didn’t. I changed a few things up and kept moving forward. All I needed was that resolution to not give up on myself and the rest is history.